Blogging versus Writing

Office Appropriate Outfits - Summer

I recently started reading The Daily Tay after I bought my favorite shirt ever from her. She recently posted something that hit home with me about blogging. She wrote that she remembered when blogs were more about writing and sharing and less about who could make the most money or take the prettiest pictures.

I know, I know. I’m going to post a picture of myself with affiliate links to other items below it. And that’s going to seem totally hypocritical.


Sweater – LOFT via Goodwill (similar) | Dress – Le Tote (same) | Shoes – Kate Spade c/o Shopbop (same) | Necklace – The Limited (similar

But, seriously. I make so little off this blog and I certainly don’t take the prettiest pictures. Sure, I do the occasional sponsored post and I do get some great freebies to blog about, but even though I’m not a “big” blogger, I sometimes miss the anonymity of having a Livejournal account. Something that was just me and my thoughts (and the people who read them, of course).

Now, though, my name is attached to this blog and I can’t write as freely as I wish about some things. I’ve always tried to be careful about what I write (in fact, my husband got fired from a job almost 15 years ago because of something he wrote online) because I know the consequences. But that doesn’t mean I don’t occasionally have the wish to write something more about what’s going on with my life other than the fact that I got almost 40 mosquito bites on my arms, legs and face this weekend.

And don’t worry, mom. It’s nothing drastic 🙂 Just the occasional wish that I had someone to invite me to or go with me to all those fun events I see on Instagram. Is it still FOMO if you know you’re missing something?

Except mosquito bites. I am certainly NOT missing those.


11 replies on “Blogging versus Writing

  1. Lindsay

    It’s always a fine balance about writing too much or too little, sharing too much or too little. I keep on always coming back to this saying – write about what I want to read, write about what I like. It keeps me focused and also helps me grow!

  2. Anne

    I’ve struggled with this feeling sometimes as well, and although my name isn’t really attached to my blog (well, my first name obviously is), it does suck that we can’t be honest online because it may come back to bite us someday. I actually had a “social media training” at work last week talking about basically that. And it does sometimes feel like I can’t write about what I want – I actually made my blog private to everyone but me for the time being while I figure out where I want to go with it.

  3. Jen @ Librarian for Life and Style

    I think I get what you mean. It’s a strange thing, blogging (especially blogging as a self-described “high-functioning introvert”. I enjoy it when I write more introspective or personal posts — I don’t know if anyone else does! — but then I also wonder if I’m saying or revealing too much. And I’ve realized why I’ve resisted social media outlets like Instagram and Twitter for so long, because I haven’t really wanted to engage on that kind of level, even if it would help out my blog stats. But then I wonder if I’m being silly about that… sigh, a vicious cycle.

    On a more superficial level, I really like your outfit! I like how the longer sweater kind of gives a drop-waist effect to the total look.

  4. Melissa

    Ahhh—the days of Live Journal! I was a nearly daily “blogger” on LJ for years and loved the privacy of it. I think that’s why I struggle with keeping any kind of consistency on a public facing blog—I am pretty protective of my private life as it relates to my work life/professional persona, but yet I am known to be very authentic and transparent with those that I open up to, and having a public presence on the internet doesn’t totally jive with the former.

  5. Bethany @ Accidental Intentions

    I definitely feel you on this one. I feel like I’m fairly honest and open on my blog, but the price (if you can even really call it a price) I pay for that is keeping my identity pretty close to the chest. I would never, EVER use my blog for actual self-marketing purposes, not because I’m embarrassed by the content or anything like that at all, but because I don’t want people to know who I am because I DO want to be able to say “controversial” things (by which I mean I want to not kiss the behinds of big corporations/businesses and stroke their egos just to keep them from getting angry) and not have to censor my opinion, particularly if my opinion is something that I believe needs to be said (if my opinion were “We should drown puppies because we CAN!” that would be a different story. If my opinion is, “Hey, it’s actually pretty rotten of this big, powerful business to strongarm the little guy out of business so that they can have a monopoly on the market,” I feel like that’s not at all the same thing. But the big, powerful business is the one you “can’t upset,” because they have the resources to come after you, or the ability to withhold resources you may need). So yeah, you’ll never see full name on my blog, you’ll never see my blog on my LinkedIn profile, you’ll never see me actually trying to become a big blogger in ANY capacity because I want to maintain my anonymity. But that, of course, prevents me from using my blog as something I can point to professionally to say, “Look at this thing I built and have maintained. Look at how I use my skills in this capacity, and the things I’ve learned because of it.” Give and take, I suppose.

  6. Bri Marie

    I definitely agree with you. Hence my random absence for the last week or two. I’m still not sure the role I want my blog to play in my life, or how I want to interact with the internet world. For now, I’m glad you’re here, writing a bit each day, and taking the time to visit my blog once in a while.

  7. Maggie

    OMG yes. I was a hardcore Livejournaler for pretty much all of college and the years following … I think for six or so solid years? I eventually started posting everything “friends only” but still got in trouble a couple times with friends for stuff I posted, haha. But yeah, I remember the days when blogging was just about sharing your life and thoughts, semi-anonymous and unfiltered. For awhile I thought this whole Capital B Blogger thing was …. weird. I still find it a bit weird. But what are you gonna do. I’ve also been “blogging” in some way or another since 1998, so I kind of feel odd if I don’t blog.

    Also, when I first started “doing” social media as part of my job, we cared a lot about what employees were posting online. Now … it doesn’t really register as something we should care about. Maybe it’s because we (employees) have gotten a bit smarter, or maybe companies care a lot less? Or maybe I work for a company that doesn’t have to worry about that as much.

  8. Katie @ Live Half Full

    Oh, FOMO. I’m glad someone else is feeling the push and pull of wanting to share REAL life vs. comparing to all the pretty picture blogs, amazing blog events and opportunities. At the end of the day, I blog to share my story so that’s what I remind myself.

  9. Jill Will Run

    I have been blogging since 2001… back then there was no commercial aspect to it. We didn’t even have comments! For years and years I just wrote, that’s what got me noticed and people started to send me stuff. I have never gone to extremes to monetize my site because I have full-time work and don’t have time to focus on that. But it’s nice to get a little extra money to cover the expenses. HOWEVER…. I do find myself dissatisfied with what I am writing. Which then leads me to a week where I realize I’ve hardly posted at all (like lost of the past few weeks) and feeling unsure of what I want from my site. The “blogging” has taken away from the “writing” for sure, where I used to notice things in the world and write a goofy story about something happening and now I’m thinking about how I have to write something for a person that gave me product but I refuse to weave it into my daily life like some big bloggers because I am not selling out my family life for product. I know inside that I don’t think I could just walk away from it all… but I’m not thrilled with it all right now either.

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